
We have just added a new forum for you to discuss issues relating to
People You Know.
Here is an example of an everyday dispute scenario that we're sure you're familiar with:
You are misinterpreted for the hundredth time by someone you feel should know you better. Not only has this person offended you by not knowing how you think, but en has also responded aggressively without merit. If this person had respected you enough, en would have paid attention to the intentions behind your comments and responded legitimately. But now that en has aggressively attacked your emotions, your natural response is to retaliate.
During your retaliation, you explain how this person has misunderstood and unfairly attacked you, at which point the other person should realise that en was wrong and apologise, thus allowing you both to breathe while attempting to re-establish trust so that the conversation can continue with a promise from the other person that en will pay attention properly this time. But this resolution doesn't come, does it?
When you retaliate from es unwarranted attack, en attacks you even harder than before, without anything close to an apology. This kind of behaviour is disgusting, of course, and will lead to a huge, irreparable mistrust between you. One needs to concentrate to appreciate. If someone is not paying you enough attention to understand your thoughts, in that moment en does not care about you. If this happens regularly, this person simply does not care about you in general. You either need to change, or find someone who cares. This person is emotionally harming you, and there are simply too many people to choose from in this world who could listen to you, so you should not think that the music has stopped and that this is the final chair.
Another consideration is that you have mistreated the other person in the past and never made amends. Forgiving and/or forgetting emotional attacks is usually essential when resolving issues with people of limited mental capacity or patience, because they will not discuss all aspects of perspective thoroughly enough for anyone to achieve closure, a process that can take hours and involves drawing and labelling mind maps. The truth of the matter is that you are probably both too lazy to do such a thing (unless you are both intelligent, compassionate and motivated individuals - extremely unlikely), and that such conflicts will continue for the duration of your relationship or life, whichever ends sooner, or until one of you learns to shut up and hold all the pain inside until you become bitter and miserable, hugely diminishing the production of serotonin in your brain.
We recommend that you talk about your conflicts in the
People You Know forum. It will clarify your thoughts, alleviate some weight from your shoulders, and help others learn from the ensuing discussion thus making them feel less alone or trapped. The jury of the world is now seated. Present your case.
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